My secret to staying sexy and powerful today has a few different levels to it and they all kind of fit together in the satisfaction of my physical desires.
It’s no secret that I love to fuck. Ladies, as much as I’ll preach over the months to come that you should live and fulfill your sexual desires and all your fantasies and have as much sex as you want, let me make this point very clear… NEVER settle for less than you deserve, and you deserve it all baby. Don’t let a guy disrespect you and treat you like shit just cuz he fucks you like a God and makes you squirt… or gives you orgasms that allow you to fully grasp the big bang theory.
You have to know your self worth and never be willing to settle for less than everything you desire, which is what you deserve! Never settle.
Now, I realize how difficult this is to live by, trust me, I do. Which is why theToyChest, also knows as thePleasureChest, is a crucial part of my existence, and plays a significant role in my over all balance of energy and happiness on a day to day basis. I’m not even going to remotely try and play down how important my vibrator is to me. And that’s only one amongst many toys I just gotta’ have.
Ok, when you’re building a roster, or more basically put, when you’re considering sleeping with a guy, you have to set your standards (high). You have to know what you’re willing to give to get what you want. By now you should know exactly what you want out of any physical relationships you have. Decide what you’re willing to give, because I promise you, he will take as much as he gives. It’s in a man’s nature to take from you and if you’re not the love of his life, most guys won’t provide much. DON’T lower your standards.
Let me give you an example. I have a guy that is incredible in bed.Great stamina, comes every time I call him… we have a super simple casual sex relationship that’s gone on for years. We take from each other in the same way we give to each other, we fuck and it’s as simple as that. When he calls, I come just the same. There’s not a huge sacrafice from either of us because we both want the same things fundamentally. I have another guy who fucks like a GOD, I mean, just blows my mind the second he puts his hands on me. He’s not so demanding of my time as, let’s call the first one “theJock”, but he’s very demanding of, shall we say, how I carry myself in public. HA! He’s a complete drama queen. We used to work in the same spot, so if he saw me touching another guy or even if he was just having a bad fuckin day and saw me hug a friend that was male, he’d snap and say I was fucking him, blah blah. Stomping around like a woman, that kinda shit. Very unpredictable in his outrage. I mean, I’m territorial sure, but this guy was just over the top in his ‘suspicions’ (aka insecurities). And for any guys who are reading out there, let me just say, if you fuck half as good as this guys does, you have nothing to be insecure about. I never really understood that part of him, but fuck it, that’s half the reason he’s un-dateable in the first place, he’s fuckin mental. But could I ever stop fucking him? No way. He’s a gem and an ace in the hole if you need a solid lay. We can call him, “theSexGod.” If you’ve never had one of these guys, get out there more. These types are usually fuckin pricks but they can play the game well if you stay firm to your rules. You’re both looking for the same thing, sex, he just, 99.9% of the time, won’t want you fucking other guys. Stand your ground, he’ll get over it.
See, with theSexGod I’m willing to keep him in check by ‘being good’ when we’re in the same room together to continue getting what I want, where as with ‘theJock’, not a fuckin chance I’d put up with that kind of behaviour. If he snapped on me, or I had to spend 3 hours on a Saturday night explaining ‘he’s just a friend’ I’d drop his ass until he stopped acting like a little girl. And then the vengeance I would take out on him when he came crawling back to me again would be vicious and needing of a safe word 100%.
This game or lifestyle or whatever you wanna call it is not as hard as we make it out to be… I’ve been weak, and I’ve been disappointed, but this is the #YearOfTheBeast !!! No more fuckin around, Ladies. Demand what you want, and I promise, you’ll get it. They always said, ‘She who has the cookie has the power,’ yes?
Realistically, it’s much easier to say no to a guy that every fibre of your being wants to fuck if you have theToyChest at home and you can easily get off and tame some of your sexual energy. You’re not always going to have someone worth it to call, and it’s gunna suck, cuz sometimes when you’re in these kinds of relationships people cross lines. And sometimes you know, at least this time, you have to say no and show them it may be a game, but they’re about to learn theRules. That being said, not all guys that fuck up deserve to be cut off. We all make mistakes but they certainly need to know that you won’t put up with nonsense. It’s your standards system, take control of it.
It’s simple really, I don’t have a lot of rules, but break them and their will be consequences. Now I wish I could say that I’m so bad ass and in control of my emotions that it would always be easy to practise what I preach, but since I’m only human and probably comparative to a male in my animalistic nature and self control, that would be a lie… hence the need for my favourite toy, my vibrator. It’s my favourite way to relax on my own. It’s a great prequel to stretching and yoga. Morning, noon, night… anytime, all the time. My lifeline. If you don’t have one… get one.
Which reminds me, I’ll be doing a review of my favourite sex toys and why you get what you pay for, shortly. Keep an eye out for that set of posts, there’s going to be some great links and juicy information that you won’t want to miss out on.
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