…and it’s not reserved for the sexy and beautiful millionaires of the world, trust me.
First of all, Sexy Isn’t A Look, It’s An Attitude. Haven’t you ever met someone beautiful and sexy and then they open their mouth…
Second of all, last time I checked, you don’t have to pay for potentially great sex. You desire and it shall be yours (with a little finishing school touches, of course 😉 …but more on that later.)
If you’re a woman you don’t have to pay for great sex, period. It’s out there waiting for you to actively desire it.
And lastly, Great Sex Isn’t All About Positions And Sexy Visuals.
Atmosphere plays a huge roll in the quality of sex you’re having too. For some it’s candles and sexy music that set the tone. For others, a grimy stairwell in an apartment building at 3AM and the thought of being caught that sets their blood on fire. (We don’t judge.)
Which brings me to my next point. Sex is more about what’s going on in your head than anything else, especially for women.
Let me be clear, if you’re in the middle of great sex, you’re so overwhelmed physically that emotionally you’re lost in the void. You fall from the earth at whirlwind speeds with no hopes of ever reaching solid ground again. Get the idea? You should have no time to think about how you look, or feel, or smell… or what he thinks of you, or how you know he’s fucking someone else. That’s right, you should be in a place where those things are simply details.
If you’ve never felt this, or haven’t felt this in a long time, I wanna’ hear from you… Find the Follow Button, and email me! Write as much or as little as you like, be as personal or as general as you like. Share this anywhere you like. Ask your friends what they think, and get them in on it!
I want you to be having incredible sex, and satisfying the craving like a thirsty vampie. You deserve to be having the best sex of your life! So I’m extending an olive branch for you and anyone you know in need. Everyone needs love and affection, or so they say, but what about physical satisfaction, what about the fulfillment of our desires? Why doesn’t anyone talk about how that would make the world a better place, hmm? Because sex is bad, and degrading to women, and not worth the risk? I think not.
Clearly these people have never had mind blowing, earth shattering sex. It’s fuckin’ inspiring!
I will personally be reading all of your emails and responding. Let me know what’s going on in your sex life and what you think your biggest issue with having great sex is. I’m here to listen and I’m here to help!
Action Steps:
If there was one thing you could improve about your sex life, what would it be?
Have you ever had Great Sex?
What’s your dream sex life look like, in present day? (None of this, when I find theOne…)
Being unapologetic doesn’t mean you walk around acting like you know everything and shutting down people and their ideas before you even hear them out. You should listen when people talk, even if they start their sentences with ‘you should…’. Realistically, you don’t know everything and the people in your world are meant to help get you where you wanna go. Remember that when you start feeling high handed. You’re a beast, yes, but what is a lion king without the others around him?
We’re quick to shut down ideas that we don’t like, but sometimes it can be a detriment if we’re not listening with an open mind. A leader will listen, interpret, and put it aside if they don’t like it, knowing that it could be a valuable perspective down the road. You should never let your intelligence make the people around you feel small, or stupid. Be the one who allows people to expand their minds by always being open to new ideas and weighing out the pros and cons of all possibilities.
People often assume they have to change everything in their lives to get where they wanna go, but that’s not always true. Who you are and what you’ve done and how you think have gotten you this far haven’t they? I look at it as a constant desire for upgrades. I upgrade my thoughts, my values and my systems for day to day life when I want more. It’s simple and much less stressful. If you take little things and flip them on themselves to get you better results you constantly move forward and up. There are no stagnant moments where you feel like you’re not making any progress in your life. This way you can avoid the slippery downward spirals we all fall into on occasion. And it’s much easier to claw your way back to neutral when you look at things from this perspective.
You don’t always have to be making giant leaps forward, you just have to keep moving. As long as to you it feels like an improvement, don’t worry about who’s moving faster or making bigger achievements. When it comes time to make huge jumps you’ll be ready with the confidence you’ve built up by making constant progress. We call it, ‘Baby Steps.’
It ties into living spherically. If you make constant moves, then you make constant improvements in your life. You’ll notice how some are big and some are small, but keep in mind that all are progress. Celebrate the little wins as much as you do the big ones. They’re a lot more frequent and can keep you in a heightened state of emotion if you remain aware of them.
A little secret from The Vault: Every morning when I wake up, I get out of bed and make some coffee, I go to the washroom and brush my teeth, and I put my gym shoes on. It’s a small routine that has majour benefits. When I have my gym shoes already on, I find myself moving around the house differently. I put some music on and before I know it I’m bumpin’ and grindin’ in the mirror. I can’t help it. It feels so good to move my body like that, so I do it without thinking about going to the gym, or getting a workout in.
If you try and tell yourself before you go to bed every night that in the morning you’re going to go to the gym, there’s no fun in it. But if you get up in the morning and put your gym shoes on with no ‘must go to the gym’ thought, then you have no expectations and whatever you do will feel like progress.
It really is about the feeling more than the action. The action will follow from the right vibrational feeling if you remain in the now. The now is fun, the now is whatever you want it to be. You can go to the gym or not go to the gym, but either way you’ll feel like you’re free to do as you please.
Isn’t it a curious thing that we fight ourselves. It’s not someone else’s goal for you to go to the gym, it’s your own, so why when you get out of bed do you feel like it’s such a chore. You feel like the gym is a chore and eating right is a chore, and work is a chore, etc. And then what’s worse, if you don’t go to the gym you feel as if you didn’t accomplish something and so begins the spiral downward into self loathing and misery.
Fuck all that. Make your own micro habits, like putting on your gym shoes and let the rest be fun. Stressing about all the things you need to do isn’t helping anyone, especially not you. So fuck it.
I think it’s just as important to look your best as is it to feel your best, or close enough anyways. Call it a 51/49 split. Ha! So over the next few weeks I’m going to be branching out a bit and sharing, for all you ladies out there, where I get my inspiration and techniques for make-up and beauty, incase you’re having trouble achieving what you desire on this front. Also, I’m going to be showing you some of my favourite pampering and just all around dolled up techniques and products.
This category for all things beauty is going to be posted on Thursdays under my “Year of the Beast’ section. This is directed at the working female (meaning when it’s a necessity) but really, anyone with a passion for beauty and style will find value and inspiration in this category of EBINOTTI The Blog.
Also check out EBINOTTI on Pinteres & Instagram if you wanna see where I get my inspirational images. I’m a very visual person, so I love these platforms to find and share beautiful and sexy visuals.
I’m going to be sharing my favourite tutorials, product reviews and tips and tricks from the most amazing females in the bizz. Everything from neutral make-up looks to evening glam, for any majour events you might have this year, or even just a glammed up girls night out!
Tom Ford said it best, “Dressing well is a form of good manners.” So if you enjoy putting your best face on when you step out of your home, I’ve got you covered on finding amazing resources and a variety of incredible women out there who are so amazing for putting the time and effort into making sure you’re looking your best. They really go above and beyond to help you achieve your desires in beauty, and they obviously have a passion for what they do, so make sure you show them some love if you find their tutorials and reviews helpful.
Today we’re going to talk make up, cuz I know this is where we can all relate. Everyone wears some make-up at some point throughout the year, even if you are one of those anti-beauty enhancement weirdos, there’s still going to be a moment when you need to get at least a little glam for sake of not going to your best friend’s wedding looking like you don’t care at all about your look, or the people around you for that matter.
In my opinion, it is a show of respect to the people around you if you offer time and care to your appearance before being in their company. And of course there will always be the exceptions of the inner circle or family sometimes when even the business you have to do is more of a hang out session and it’s totally appropriate to not wear any make-up, meaning you’re staying away from public places! Haaa… seriously though.
When I’m home or with my closest friends it’s not always important to be rockin’ a make up look. I enjoy going a day with nothing on my face as much as any woman, but honestly when I’m out and about it’s important that I present the best version of myself, not necessarily for others but for myself. I’m a well manner female and I think this plays into that… And like I said, I enjoy getting all dolled up. I feel beautiful and sexy no matter what, but the things we can do for our look with make up, hair and fashion these days… INCREDIBLE! It’s just plain laziness if you never express that part of yourself, and I think you know that. So if you feel a bit lost, or just have no idea wtf you’re doing, don’t you worry daring, we’ve got you covered! Click that follow button and tune in every Thursday for more. ❤
Ok, so now that I’ve ranted a little about my feelings on beauty, which I’m sure there will be much more of in the near and distant future, let’s get into it. Today we’re gunna talk the basics of make-up and beauty. I personally love watching make-up tutorials on YouTube. They’re so informative and truly have helped me to look my best and find the best products suited to me without having to try everything on the market. These ladies are so thorough and sooo inspiring. Some of them are professional make-up artists and some are just passionate make-up enthusiasts (like me, though I have a make-up collection to rival most artists!) and they have been doing it for at least a couple of years with millions of followers from all around the world. I mean, 3 million women wouldn’t be interested if it wasn’t good right?
So first up is the amazing Carli Bybel. She is definitely one of my favourites (Top 3) because she is so in love with make-up and it’s hard not to feel the same after watching her. If you’ve never seen a tutorial on beauty or make-up I would suggest you start with this link to one of her tutorials for everyday make-up using only drugstore products. Click the image, it’s a link to her YouTube Channel. You’ll love this!
Also check her out on Instagram @carlibel
Also, click around and check out her other make-up tutorials, hair tutorials, and product reviews. She has an amazing website, ‘the Beauty Bybel’ as well if you wanna get more in dept with the over all looks she creates. Truly an inspiring and incredible female, you can tell she really cares about all her followers and really puts the effort into giving us what we all so desperately need… beauty advice!
I personally never had any sisters or females around to teach me any techniques, and even if you do have girlfriends and sisters, they could suck at it. HA! So here is another link to Carli’s YouTube Channel. This is a bit more of a glammed up look, if you’re ready to get serious about gettin’ dolled up.
These two links are a great place to start, the basics if you will. Like I said, make sure you show some love and subscribe if you wanna be in the know about all the things going on in the wonderful world of cosmetics and style. I follow this woman religiously for all things beauty. She’s got a beautiful soul, truly.
It’s not just about our outer beauty, it’s really about how we feel on the inside, so we are fighting the same fight, to empower and inspire females to be extraordinary.
It’s all about living spherically, being extraordinary, and of course feeling sexy and beautiful from the inside out. Visual stimulation for motivation, inspiration and raw sexual energy is my thing. It’s a big year ladies! It’s Year of the Beast. Step Your Game Up!
It’s the year of wanting more. We can all feel it, as if it’s always been there and even though on some level we’ve always been conscious of the need and want for more in life, this year has it’s own energy working for us. It’s impossible to ignore, on a global scale we are pushing the boundaries and breaking the mould of our comfort zones.
On a global scale we are more willing to try new things, to uproot our entire lives and travel and even face the fears that have stood in our way for far too long. It is a year of merciless behaviour towards our dreams.
It’s not important what has gotten us to the breaking point and tipped the scales towards our belief in ourselves, at least not in this post. What is important is that this year we truly feel like we can achieve greatness. The ‘average’ person has a feeling that maybe, just maybe there’s something extraordinary within them and they simply need to move in the direction of greatness to achieve it. What a beautiful thing that is, that we can believe in ourselves enough to do something truly amazing in this lifetime, that there’s something within us that feels worthy of being called great, not necessarily for the recognition from others but from ourselves. We are more willing to follow the pull towards our deepest desires, and through the courage of moving in that direction we find open doors everywhere, getting us closer and closer to fulfilling our wildest dreams. Finding natural highs and happiness like we’ve never experienced before.
By the end of the year I want to be able to look myself in the mirror and feel unbelievably and unfathomably proud of myself. My achievements and my undeniable success in creating something in this world worth value will be my target, the way I measure my own personal success, define your own. I will make moves in many directions, and will keep this in mind always.
I don’t want to be known as great, I want to believe I’m great. I want to create something that makes the world believe in greatness again and not just the mediocrity of things as appalling as the American Dream being the peak of our hopes for success. No. Not me. And not you.
We will soar high above that type of normality and find new, more spherical ways of living our short lives in this state. Who knows what comes after this life? We can only guess, but I certainly wouldn’t bet all my chips on it being worth the wait. Never wait. And never fucking settle. Live your life to the fullest, to the ends of your imagination and back. Push your limits further than you ever thought you would, destroy your comfort zone, Fuck The Box. Together we might just have to courage and strength to evolve in this beautiful world.
It’s the Year Of The Beast, and it’s survival of the fittest.
You have to believe in your own beauty. No one can make you feel beautiful forever unless you first feel beautiful in your own skin and right down to your soul.
First and foremost you have to face yourself. Lay out your moral code in all matters of your life. Every man needs a code. Start with the simple one and work your way deeper from there. Do you lie? Do you cheat? Do you steal? Again, nobody can do this for you. You have to know where you stand on all the important matters of your life, and why. Once you know why you’d never lie, or cheat, or steal you can move in any direction in your life knowing that you have a golden heart and strong mind, there’s no need to feel guilt or frustration because you know who you are and where you stand. Also, people around you will treat you the way you treat yourself, so watch how people naturally move in and out of your life when you start making deliberate choices and moral codes for yourself.
Next you have to look at yourself in the mirror and see all the beauty that lies before you. You have to know how you value yourself, what you love and what you maybe don’t love as much and be happy with yourself. If you’re not happy you have to change the things bothering you, for you, not for someone else. It’s your life, take responsibility for your own happiness. There is something beautiful about you, and you get to decide what role that will play in your life. Enjoy the freedoms that you have, not everyone has the gift of freedom on many levels.
Once all that’s in place, you can really start to have fun with your self awareness. You can make everything in your life a game. You can have fun moving through the normal or mundane moments of day to day life by loving what you do because it has purpose. It has an end game. Your love for yourself is healthy and has nothing to do with ego or conceit. Other’s are not involved in this game, this is a game you play all alone. You will watch and see how it changes your life where others are involved for when you love yourself on a grand scale you attract people and circumstances in your life to support the feeling you hold inside.
When you love yourself truly and wholly, you know that your dreams are only the foresight into your future, and if you really learn to play the game you become secure in the uncertainties of life. You know that you are going to receive gifts that you couldn’t even imagine, and that life is only what you make of it because you’ve felt the increble power that you hold. No one has to feel it or believe it because you’ve felt it and you believe it, and once you’ve done this you will never look back. You will simply live with your candle burning quietly in the window waiting for anyone who seeks the path you have walked. And you’ll be willing to help them in their journey to the joy and happiness that you feel. You will find companions, those who seek the same experiences in life as you do, and together you will build and create extraordinary things that can and will be remembered by the histories. You’ve made it great so far, why not reach higher, further? Dream bigger. Live bigger. Be bigger.
It’s 2015 and it’s the Year of the Beast. You are that beast, and anything you can imagine, you can have. You must always start with the why. Why do you want it, why is it important to you? How are you going to use that to make the world better, how are they going to help the people you can reach?
Your gratitude and undying belief in self will keep you soaring high about the mediocrity of the rat race of people trapped in fear, and like I said before, when they are ready to break the shackles and live free you will be there with open heart and open mind to guide or help however you can, because you’ve been through it. You know how it feels to believe in things when everyone around you thinks you’re crazy or stupid.
Let them believe what they will, it’s their freedom, and how they choose to use it is their karma with their own consequences. Know where you stand, and let the people around you watch as you pick up speed, as you vibrate on new levels, as you create your empire and build things no one thought possible. You are your only limit… there is no key to the universe, but someone left the door open…
Today, it’s all about tough love. And you gotta trust me, it comes from my heart.
It’s 2015. Year of the Beast. It’s time to man up and make the decision to be the woman you’ve always wanted to be, the woman you know you are. The woman who stands up for what she believes in and never falters in her beliefs because she’s spent the time and effort digging deep inside her soul to find her true purpose in this life.
You can believe in the ‘fairy tale’ idea of undying love, and unfaltering devotion… and a quality of life worth living for every human being on this beautiful planet. Evolution is the reality of that fairy tale and it’s okay to want it, to believe it’s possible. It’s okay to admit that the way the world functions today is complete shit and has no good logic anymore. It’s okay to believe you can be part of the change that allows all of mankind to evolve.
Let’s start with the simple things with respect to world domination and change on a global scale, let’s start with us as women. One woman. You. Me.
It’s time we start to take responsibility for our lives. We’re the only ones who can truly control them. If you’ve given up your free will, your choice out of fear, it will be hard for me to help you. If you are realizing now that you were passive, and let life just kind of… go on, you needn’t be afraid. This moment is the right moment. You are here for a reason and it’s your choice whether or not to follow this path. A path to freedom. It’ll be a bit like falling down the rabbit hole, but once you decipher between what’s real and what’s illusion in your world, including your own true feelings and desires, the power people have over you and you over them, the real journey begins. Be brave, be powerful, be unapologetic.
I am honoured to be on this journey with you, and I will guide you in all the ways I can. More than likely, we shall guide each other. I don’t pretend to be perfect, but I am here with you as you learn who you are and what you really want. I am here, as you explore who you never thought you could be. And if you wish, I will be here when you achieve extraordinary greatness in your life. You are a powerful creator, you can feel it deep down, in your very being. It’s not your ego speaking, it’s your soul. Follow your heart, follow your bliss and fight the fear that will consume you and make you dull and average, if you let it.
I will not give up on you, for I don’t know who you are but I believe in you if you are a living, breathing human being with a soul and a heart… I believe when no one else does. I’m the eternal dreamer, a fierce realist, a conductor of her own world… And I am on your side.
Being International Women’s Day I felt that a post was needed. I usually post Monday-Friday but this is a special occasion! It’s all about women, although I write it so anybody can relate or find value in the concepts I put forth.
It all started with the idea: ‘Sexy Isn’t A Look, It’s An Attitude’ It’s about inspiring women to find the strength and inspiration within themselves to achieve and create anything they can imagine and desire in this beautiful world.
There is energy within us, power… magic, and if we can learn to control and then unleash our energy we can truly create anything we desire in this life. It’s about more than confidence, it’s about more than feeling good, it’s about awareness.
Think about it this way, as a woman, when you’re wearing something that truly makes you feel sexy, maybe a little cocktail dress and some sexy stilettos, you walk out of your house and do whatever you’re going to do and as you move through your day you have this air about you… it gives everyone around you energy, your day seems to just ‘click’ and flow. It’s fun, it’s fluid, it’s magical.
It’s wasn’t about the clothes or the Louboutin’s on your feet… it was the feeling you had within you that attracted all these events to go so well. And I’m here to tell you, it wasn’t a coincidence that you had the most incredible day. You created that day. Every little thing that worked out beautifully was attracted to you from the energy you were giving off, as if you were sprinkling fairy dust all over your day and leaving a stunning trail of star dust behind you as magnificent as a comet’s tail. It’s an energy, it’s an attitude, and it will attract it’s likeness. Of that, I promise you.
Life is a journey, an extraordinary game that can bring good or bad to the world as a whole. It seems that some play this game so well it’s as if they know something the rest of us are barely scratching the surface of. Have you ever wondered, when they write our story in the history books, when they look back on us from a thousand years in the future, what will they say? Will they say we evolved at all, or will they say we were mindless, soulless slaves to a system we didn’t even know existed?
I will teach you everything I know about how to find the energy within yourself to create anything your heart can desire and your mind can imagine… and together we might just change the world. I am here with you on this journey called life, if I can improve it in any way, I will. You are not alone.
Power. Control. Dominance.
Such stigma attached to these words.
Love. Lust. Passion.
A stigma much the same for these.
What does it mean to you? Is it all one and the same, living within you, or are some good and other’s bad?
I’ve always believed in humanity, in human beings; in their hearts and in their vast souls. So I cannot believe our natural desire for power and control, for dominance could be something bad, or see it as a negative in any way. It’s an energy like any other, therefore I know there’s a way to use it for good, for pleasure, and on the path to greatness for all mankind. If you take a brief overview of history then you know how these desires can be used to hurt and for selfishness and greed. I don’t think looking at the past will help us achieve balance with such raw and primal energy, but if you let your mind wander, and use your imagination to free yourself from a harsh reality then you can see an entire world of love and lust, pleasure and pain, where these feelings have more than just merit, they have a need to be expressed. We all feel it, and though some are better at expressing and diffusing the energy than others, we can all relate to the feelings of wanting to express such “taboo” emotions.
What is it about desire that pulls us to something that we initially fear? It’s a false fear, of course, because it comes from within us and therefore isn’t evil for it doesn’t involve hurting other’s for our own gain. And in the juicy cases where it does, consent and a safe word can transform the heavy hand of karma into a world of shared pleasure, release, and a deep, deep bond formed of trust and loyalty.
Love, one of the many points on an infinite scale. Lust, one of the many points on an equally infinite scale. Separate scales, but there is a connection in this delicious world of pleasure and pain, dominance and submission. If you’re intrigued as I am, click the link and get Inside the Mind of a Dominant Male. You may be surprised at what you find.
A bond so deep, I believe we’re only scratching the surface in mainstream society of what truly is created in the space between pleasure and pain, between a dominant and a submissive.
The cold, hard truth of it is, you’ve been living a dom/sub life since you were a blip on the map. That’s how society works. And like any good relationship, there are choices. You have the choice where you live, what kind of living you make, and how you spend your days, but make no mistake, if you’re not creating your own path, then you are slave to someone. Do you even have a safe word in this relationship? Does the reality of life provide one? Is there a point where things get so painful and overwhelming that you can’t take anymore so you say one simple word and everything stops, the game stops?
Let me help you out here. Life doesn’t come with safe words, there’s no button you can push to make it all stop because you can’t take anymore and you’re about to break. That is life. Nobody ever said it would be any different, any more secure and safe so let’s not sugar coat it. It is harsh and painful at times, and if you’re a survivor then you already know your own strength, you know what you’re capable of creating when all the chips are down and your life lies in shambles all around you.
There’s something beautiful in the vicious rock bottoms that life has a way of serving up to us when we least expect it because what comes next is truly extraordinary. We survive. We come out of it stronger and more beautiful than ever because in that moment we believe in ourselves above all. It’s extraordinary… That first smile, that first laugh after the greatest pain of our lives and we know in that moment we believe in love and all things beautiful again, and even more importantly, that we never stopped believing.
Today I challenge you…
Explore yourself, your deepest desires, until you find something that surprises you… something that resonates with a part of you that you don’t fully understand. This is where you’ll find your extraordinary strengths. And make no mistake, you are extraordinary. This is also where I’ll come in and shake the very foundation of everything you’re so proud to say you are. Your potential is endless, limitless, but you must first understand all parts of yourself if you ever wanna make it a reality. Especially your dark side, your deepest desires. If you need a little nudge, here you go… this will open you up in a way that we can all find comfort in our desires. You needn’t be ashamed, or afraid but I will warn you, it’s real. Everything you feel, it’s real.
So, prepare yourself. You may find something within you that you never expected. You are not alone, for as long as I am here and other’s like me, you’ve nothing to fear.
A vibe… a feeling. Something deep within your soul that pulls at your heart strings, and clouds your mind when you try and suppress it. I am here, with you on this journey.
Whether you go to the salon and get your hair done, or the nail bar to get your nails done, or the spa for a massage and body wrap, it is so important that you designate chunks of time every week just for you. You’ll be pleasantly surprised how much it lifts your spirits and the extra energy it gives you so you can give more back to the people around you that you love. You will feel sexier and that energy is extremely powerful.
There’s something in the saying ‘give to yourself first’ that has resonated with me recently. I have always been a giver in my personal life, allowing people at times to suck me dry and leave me scrounging for enough emotional and physical energy to get through a single day, but once I became aware of my own energy, of my own body and it’s needs, I learned to take those minutes, hours, and sometimes entire days out for myself to ‘recharge.’ Mentally cleansing is something we should be practising on a day to day basis, but what about our physical bodies? Should not just as much care be put into them as well?
When you go to a salon you walk in and they take your coat, ask if you’d like something to drink and lead you to a comfortable place to sit with magazines and the like to wait for you stylist to greet you. You may not realize that something has changed in your surroundings and therefore your energy, but it has. You are now in an environment where people are there solely to take care of you, as you are doing for yourself, and it’s this selfless act of the people around you that makes all the difference. You have decided to call up a great salon instead of looking for the cheapest deal because you want the best for your hair and yourself and when you arrive for your appointment everyone is there to take care of you. They’re supporting your choice to pamper yourself. And this is extremely powerful for your energy. We should never downplay the impact that others have in our ives. Whether you like it or not, you cannot do it all alone. You need companionship and support, even if you’re paying for it.
A spa is the same, it’s about de-stressing and relaxation. Again, there are people designated to support and care for you as soon as you walk in the door. I can barely begin to explain how much this can effect your life and over-all health. Your energy and mentality will be balanced and brought back to neutral, you may possibly even delve into the realm of pleasure if you’re really aware of how much you’re enjoying the experience.
Your awareness plays a big role in your overall enjoyment and therefore your ability to allow these things to balance your life.
In a world as fast-paced and extreme as ours, it’s important to keep your balance, and the easiest way to do this, if you have no practise, is to pamper yourself. Go get your nails done, and your hair done. Go to a spa and have a massage or if they offer it, go for a float. All these things will keep you centred, balanced and sexy as fuuuck so you can take on the world and achieve your deepest desires and greatest dreams!
Now, I realize that some of you may not have the funds to divulge in such pleasure as going to the spa and the salon and the nail bar all in one month, so prioritize. See which one or two of these are the most important and functional in your life and make them part of your routine. As for the other things, you can always find ways to create an environment for yourself that will allow you to calm and balance your energy.
Bubble baths at home should never be under-valued. They’re great if you find a wonderful bubble bath with some aroma therapy (again my favourite is from Bath & Body Works), light a few candles, even bring in a glass of wine and just like that you’re transported anywhere you can imagine in this beautiful world of ours. Allow your mind to follow your body into relaxation.
Mani’s at home. I’ve been doing this since I was a little girl, so I’m quite good at it. If you enjoy painting and sculpting your nails, that’s an easy way to save money and still pamper yourself. Designate a night every week or two and get a good movie going, and pamper away! Great when you invite a girlfriend over and do it together.
There’s endless ways to pamper yourself and it really all depends on what you like and what you LOVE. Take the time to ask yourself what you love and let others help you in taking care of yourself. And start now. What can you easily implement into your life right now to take you to the status of Pampered Queen?
It’s crazy how something as simple as your underwear can change your attitude. Even the word lingerie is sexier than underwear. When you say to yourself in the morning, I’m putting my lingerie on under my jeans, or suit, or whatever, it changes how you feel and therefore how you walk, talk and carry yourself throughout the day.
I would suggest every woman goes out and purchases a matching pair of bra and panties, preferably something with lace, that they can justify as lingerie, even if it isn’t being shipped in from France or Italy. That being said, I would also suggest that every woman takes a serious look at her budget to see if she can justify shipping something in from France or Italy. There’s nothing in this world that you can put on under you clothes that’s going to make you feel more like a powerful beast of a woman than European lingerie. Start small if you have to, but do it! Do it because you love yourself and you love your body and 100…1,000% you’re worth it. You’ll understand the value of it as soon as you walk out of your home that first time, and just like that it’ll be the best thing you’ve ever bought for yourself.
Now, all the fancy EU lingerie talk aside, you can catch the same feeling day to day by being more mindful of what you put on under your clothes everyday. If you have full bum cotton panties that are white or nude, do me a favour… go into your drawer, grab them, and chuck them right now! They’re gross and they’re probably not even white anymore. Who needs ’em anyways? I like a good full bum panty or booty short as much as any girl but I buy them from Victoria’s Secret, in pretty colours, with lace trim like any sexy female should! Don’t argue with me! Lesson learned, I forgive you. Moving on.
If you don’t have a regular shaving routine to keep your legs and vajee (my own word, sound it out) smooth and well kept, start one now. You don’t want to get caught off guard and there’s no excuse for showing up at work with stubble, or worse… wanting to spend the night with a gorgeous man and having to say no because you haven’t shaved in a week and a half. Smh, step up your game starting now.
We’re turning over a new leaf here, let’s get organized and act like the grown women that we are. Laziness is gross and there’s no point in it, you know it doesn’t make you happy! I do a full shave every Thursday or Friday for the weekend and re-do lower legs and arms on Wednesdays. If you can afford waxing in your monthly budget, even better. Pre-book your appointments at your favourite salon so your next appointment is already a set date and you don’t even have to think about it. And keep sexy and smooth by shaving your legs and whatever else you want hairless in between.
We are the strong, powerful, beautiful and youthful women of this era. Let’s take pride in how we feel by paying meticulous attention to our upkeep and maintenance. Now, I understand that not everyone wants to have a shaving routine, and that’s fine. It’s the idea of it. The idea that we want to look and feel our best when it absolutely counts and not just for other’s but for ourselves as well. Whether it’s work at a bar or date night every Wednesday with your husband. Even if you’re single and haven’t had sex in over a year. I don’t care! If you want to change the way you feel sexually, then you have to change the way you care for your body. And the most important way to do that is to pay attention to the things that make us feel sexy. Like silky smooth skin and a well maintained vagina, beautiful panties and fine lingerie.
I love to use sugar scrubs from Bath & Body Works after I shave my arms and legs. The oils leave my skin feeling unbelievably soft and we all know how incredible they smell. There’s a scent for everyone, so find something that makes you close your eyes and breathe it deep into your lungs. If your mouth waters, even better, his will too.
Enjoy ladies, and please for the love of all things sexy, throw out those nasty old granny panties. It’s 2015, Year of the Beast, fucking act like it.
EBINOTTI 